In the modern age and the “Era of Googling”, information is more accessible than ever. Whether it’s a pancake recipe or an astrophysics question you need answers to, google is here to help. The interesting thing is, what if the answer to the question you google is complex? What if the questions we are asking are perpetuating false stereotypes?
We will break down homosexuality, fact-check the myths around it and discuss the science behind same-sex relationships.
Homosexuality of men and women has been around since, well, humanity. From ancient Egypt to Persia, same-sex relationships have existed within our culture for centuries. In Medieval Europe, attitudes toward homosexuality varied by era and region. Generally, morals and ethics are not a universal list of behaviour and traits all cultures agree upon. Some religions view same-sex relationship as going against the word of god, or against the nature of human existence, since biologically, same-sex relations cannot be fruitful. On the other hand, in China, it is believed that nearly every emperor in the Han Dynasty had one or more male sex partners.
So let’s take out the moral and ethical discussion out of the equation, to remain completely unbiased.
When you type in “Is homosexuality a sin?” vs “Is homosexuality normal?” in google, the trend shows that 90% of people are interested in reading if being gay is a sin. The interesting thing about google is that you can most definitely find what you’re looking for. There is bound to be a blog post about how eating peaches can cause homosexuality. Fact-checking is instrumental when consuming information, since some things you read on google are simply fiction.
So let’s examine the first statement as either fact or fiction:
When we talk about homosexuality, the main argument that is used against the normalcy of it, is that it is either a social perversion or psychological deviation from nature. Let’s take a look at nature, shall we? Homosexuality exists across cultures and even throughout the animal kingdom, as the authors of a mammoth new review paper on homosexuality write. Between 6 and 10 percent of rams prefer to mount other rams, not ewes. Certain groups of female Japanese monkeys prefer the company of other females. So animals also have homosexual tendencies, because even though their counterpart is readily available for sexual intercourse, the japanese monkeys still go for their own gender.
Many people who are closeted have expressed their wish to “not be this way”, but they can’t help it, most people, who were ever ashamed or afraid to come out will tell you, that being gay scared them at some point, not usually because it wasn’t normal to them, but mostly because they feared rejection and persecution.
But humans are more evolved than animals, right? What makes us human is that we do not rely on pure instincts and we do not mount, without consent, everyone we are attracted to (Hopefully).
The argument is not whether it’s appropriate or not, the basic truth is - it is natural.
The second argument flowing from the first one is that - just because something comes naturally, does not mean it’s right. Some researchers argue that paedophilia is also an innate attraction, but what they almost always seem to miss the most important concept of sexual relations - consent.
Consensual homosexual relations, where two people of the same gender are attracted to each other, damages or harms nobody. Moreover, the only alleged harm done by homosexual people, are the one they do to themselves, by bottling up their feelings, suppressing their desires and stressing themselves to the point that they deludedly think they’ve been “cured”. McKrae Game, the most famous founder of “reorientation centre”, has recently condemned the organization. Hope for Wholeness Network, a faith-based conversion therapy program that seeks to rid people of their LGBTQ identities. He was wrong to create a slogan promoting the idea of “freedom from homosexuality through Jesus Christ.” He was wrong to tell people they were doomed for all eternity if they didn’t change their ways. After 20 years working in that field, Game said he realizes the harm he has caused and that he, himself, is gay. Conversion therapy encompasses a widely discredited range of methods that purport to change someone’s sexual orientation or gender identity.
Being raised by homosexuals
Another issue raised around homosexuality is the idea that children will grow up perverted, or damaged in some way, because they have two fathers or two mothers. The idea always seems to be that these people have the child’s well-being as their priority. Well, let’s take a look at the statistics.
Based on the 2013 National Helth Interview Survey (NHIS), it is estimated that there are 690,000 same-sex couples living in the U.S., and that 19% of such couples and lesbian/gay/bisexual individuals are raising children under the age of 18. Based on these stats NHIS conducted a study, Parental and child characteristics were matched for 95 female same-sex parent and 95 different-sex parent households with children 6–17 years old. One parent per household was interviewed by telephone. Multivariate analyses of variance and multiple linear regressions were conducted.
This particular study found zero difference between the households, quote “No differences were observed between household types on family relationships or any child outcomes.”
So the thought that the child would be in harm’s way with same-sex parents is not based on any science or research, it is just an opinion and should be treated as such.
Being gay is observed not only in humans, but in wildlife as well, so it can be considered natural.
You can’t pray the gay away. It’s innate, cannot be reversed or changed.
Gay parents are harmful for children.
Being homosexual is a choice.
Being gay is going against nature.